Going through the stages, the moods.

Well, today my mood about moving to a new place is one of occasional excitement. Defcon 1.5?

When I got my eviction notice August 19th my reaction/mood was of surprise, soon followed by anger, of Defcon 5. Seven years as a more than ideal tenant, and I'm out! Just like the previous place had turfed me after 3 years. But I added some understanding to my mood, as in both cases it was the landlord or family moving in, which is allowed. In this case, he and his girlfriend were both facing a winter working from home in a small one-bedroom apartment. Okay, I got it, but my next reaction was still one of panic.

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We are a social animal. Some more so than others, but we prefer groups, we like physical contact.

COVID changed that, hopefully not permanently though. I do wonder what socializing will be like a year from now - I assume we'll all be vaccinated and safe by then. Will we slowly emerge out of our burrows, blinking in the light, reluctant to approach each other? Or will we act like one big happy family, with big goofy grins, hugging friends and strangers with abandon?

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On the effects of long term but minor stresses

File-20180824-149490-xk7xk7I posted this on The Facebook a few days ago. I got some good feedback, so I thought I'd expand it a bit. Instead of packing boxes ;-)
I've had some new stressors lately, and was surprised at how much they affected me. 
Ten years ago I decided to sell my house, downsize, and move to the Wellington West area. I found a nice two bedroom place, got rid of a lot of stuff, and moved. Seven years ago my landlord announced his daughter wanted my apartment, so I found a place, packed up again, and moved. I don't recall either event being that stressful or traumatic.
This summer my landlord announced he wanted my apartment for himself, so I had to find a place and coordinate a move. I found this more stressful than it really should have been, given my history and abilities.

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"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times"

Nope - I think we're stuck in the worst of times, not a lot of best out there. Other than Melancholia's sad little "Be Best" initiative. 

I haven't blogged since May, for various reasons, most of them stressful. I have been active on Facebook, as a way to stay connected with people. I've also been getting into more arguments with right-wing Covidiots than I should, and have been following too many news sites for the latest information/rumours. COVID still weighs on my mind now, but not as much as it did a few months ago. As the lockdown eased, I started socializing more - shopping with a mask more than once every few weeks, sitting outside my local with a beer, a visit from Patty (after 7 months), walks around the hood. But I also had stresses added - relationship issues and then a notice of eviction. My landlord wants to move into my place, so I'm out as of October 31. I got that news a few weeks ago but now have a new place - yay!  Going from a two bedroom in a house to a one bedroom in an apartment building will be a change, but a good one. I'm downsizing a lot of stuff, and I will have a nice 9th floor balcony with a view of the Parliament buildings, Ottawa River, and the Gatineau's. I'm sure I'll meet many interesting people in the building, and NCC park land is right outside, with lots of walkers. Many with dogs. So - less stress as I look forward to this change and work on checking off things on my to-do list for moving.

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